Intentional, not in a hurry.
You know more about what you want than you did at 25. This is about using that, without letting a timeline make your decisions for you.
Pick up where you left offQuestions we answer
Worth reading elsewhere
Full reading list →Dating nowPew Research Center, 2024
Marriage and dating in the US: Key facts for Valentine's Day (opens pewresearch.org)Current numbers on partnering, marriage and dating that put your own timeline in context.
Brutal breakupNPR (Shots), 2015
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, But Science Can Help (opens npr.org)Studies on what speeds healing after a breakup, including reflecting on it and reconnecting with old interests.
Who you keep choosingUniversity of Toronto
Bad relationships and the fear of being single (opens utoronto.ca)Research showing that fear of being single can quietly lower your standards and keep you in unsatisfying relationships.
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Tool: the 8-question pattern check
Eight questions about the last few people you dated. You get one of nine pattern cards. It runs in your browser and nothing is saved.