Intentional, not in a hurry.

You know more about what you want than you did at 25. This is about using that, without letting a timeline make your decisions for you.

Questions we answer

37%
of adults ages 30 to 49 have ever used a dating site or app.
Pew Research Center, 2023. 6,034 U.S. adults, July 2022.
46%
of Millennial singles have used AI in their dating lives.
Kinsey Institute and Match, Singles in America, 2026. About 5,000 U.S. singles.
86%
of unmarried adults ages 22 to 35 expect to marry someday.
Wheatley Institute and Institute for Family Studies, 2026. 5,275 unmarried U.S. adults ages 22 to 35.
78%
of recent dating app users have felt burned out by the apps at least sometimes.
Forbes Health and OnePoll, reported by Deseret News, 2024. 1,000 U.S. adults who used a dating app in the past year.

Dating nowPew Research Center, 2024
Marriage and dating in the US: Key facts for Valentine's Day (opens pewresearch.org)
Current numbers on partnering, marriage and dating that put your own timeline in context.
Brutal breakupNPR (Shots), 2015
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, But Science Can Help (opens npr.org)
Studies on what speeds healing after a breakup, including reflecting on it and reconnecting with old interests.
Who you keep choosingUniversity of Toronto
Bad relationships and the fear of being single (opens utoronto.ca)
Research showing that fear of being single can quietly lower your standards and keep you in unsatisfying relationships.

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